Here's her advice.
"My advice might be a little old fashioned in the eyes of 20-somethings, but sex with my hubby is 5 million times more meaningful and fulfillling than the few times I had sex before I met him. I regret ever sleeping with anyone and wished I could have taken it back. So I think people should wait to have sex and base their relationships on friendship, companionship, common interests, etc."
Helena is right. Her advice is pretty old fashioned, but there is definitely something there. If it's consensual and both parties just want a temporary whoo-hoo, then go for it. But some people throw their bodies around for a lot of terrible reasons. Girls will sleep with guys just to keep them. Guys will sleep with women just for fun. There's no regard for the emotional component of sex. Humans are mammals, but most people aren't programmed to mate, then move on.
I guess my interpretation of Helena's advice is this:
Don't give it up so easily.
Why not actually enjoy spending time with the people? Another quote from Helena:
"You can have a smokin' hot love life, but if you don't like hanging around with them, you're not going to have a happy relationship."
Helena is a smart lady. She's young enough to still be in touch with my generation. She also wasn't a chaste angel before she was married, which makes her opinion even more valuable to the likes of me. She's lived through some of the things I'm going through right now, navigating the minefield of dating, sex, and relationships. I'll keep that one on the back burner for a while.
Until next time,
Bridget
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